Little Red Riding Hood innocently sat and sipped her cup of tea as the Big Bad world said, “I am not a fair-weathered friend,” as he slowly put his arm around her waist.

Brooke was shocked and repulsed by her own naivety for falling for her latest suitor’s seemingly scripted lines. She was educated, worldly, and attractive, and had been in her forties for more than a few years.

She opted for therapy after being distraught over her bad luck with dating men in her local area. This was not the first female patient that had expressed her disdain for the games that men play in the game of dating online.

I try to focus on women’s perspectives on these issues not only of dating, but the new-age processes of Internet dating, sex and love. I am not so sure that the problem is specific to any specific city (many of those interviewed for this article live nation wide). It seems that in our 21st century world of dating, these issues of the search for ultimate love, lust, and romance with the perfect partner run rampant and seem to have that could be a block away or across the globe.

First and foremost, women are complaining about several major repeated patterns of behavior seen in many of the men they have met. Listed below are the major offenders as stated by many of the women interviewed for purposes of this topic, dating, sex and intimacy.

A few of the major dating no-no’s include:

1. “they all seem to have ADHD…and can’t date you without being right back online while dating you”

2. “men lie about their ages and pretend to be something that they are not”

3. Suddenly the conversation goes from little pleasantries and compliments to nonstop complaints about his ex. It is fairly clear she is not yet out of his head and soul if that is all he can talk about.

4. “these guys can’t even follow through, they take you on a date, tell you how crazy they are about you, and then don’t call back for a week, while having “coffee dates” with other women…. all the while having made a date with you for the upcoming weekend.

OK…OK….OK…… I get the picture…… As a single woman myself, I have kissed my share of frogs. The key question here is…..WHY DO PEOPLE FAIL OUR EXPECTATIONS OF THEM???? And that is exactly what they do, because we set ourselves up for these disappointments!!!!!! People are people are people……thats right….we are humans with human frailties. All of us make mistakes, and not only fail others but ourselves as well at times.

In our new cyber-world of “internet dating”……we as women have to be, …and by the way………this is not an if, or a maybe, but absolutely a mandate that we “MUST BE” vigilant in our survival instincts!!!!!!! In other words….you must be discerning in your choices and stand firm with them, no matter how smooth the talker is on the other end. If your instincts say this is wrong, then this *is* wrong.

Think of it this way…would you scatter your finances away haphazardly, or give away your most valued possessions to just any old person that passed your way. Of course not!!!!!!! Then I ask, why are we as women…so often giving away our most precious belonging….our essence and soul energy. Thats right…..your essence…..that which makes up the core of who you know yourself to be, including your sense of self, self-esteem, loving heart, physical life force, etc.

With many local men are acting like teens..living their midlife crises, why must we be susceptible to their fragile egos and senseless rehash of boyhood “acting out”?

The question that is posed to me daily regarding how to find the “perfect partner” is often raised, the answer lies in loving and respecting yourself-first. On the subject of sex, love and your body, you can never truly give to another, what you have not accepted for yourself. If you don’t have love for yourself, there is no real love to emit.

Attaining this type of self-awareness means that, ‘you are aware of what the boundaries and pitfalls of internet dating entails’. You’re give physical, energetic, emotional, mental, soul-level, and spiritual aspects of your being, while maneuvering through this cyber-space world of the dating and mating process. Why not guard against the dangerous curves in the road ahead???

Ultimately you are responsible for taking responsibility for your own safety and growth. So even if the big bad wolf…..slips you that slippery and slimy cup of tea, it is up to you to decide if you want to go down that path! As they say….”IF YOU DON’T STAND FOR SOMETHING….YOU’LL FALL FOR ANYTHING….little Red Riding Hood.

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